Why We Get Obsessed With Being Right

Speaker 1

But yeah, I mean, I was listening to Easy Lover, Phil Collins, you know. In the song, I, I think that, you know, there's a part of me that doesn't wanna understand the song, you know. I mean, um, you know, I think it's best left untouched, right? I mean, um, why, why ruin the song, you know, by asking questions about it, you know? I mean, to me, the song doesn't, you know, there's a p- parts of the song I think that don't make any, that don't make sense. But, uh, you know, to someone else, the song makes complete sense, but I don't think you need to have that discussion. Like, why? You know? Uh, why obtain the knowledge? Why, why ask the question for it? Um, you know, what does it prove anyhow? I mean, it's, it's your thoughts, it's your interpretation, um, it's your viewpoint, uh, it's your mind, you know, it's your feelings. Why, why do you need to know? You know? Why do you need to know, um, somebody's else's knowledge of the song, you know? What, what is it? To correct your mind? You know, to feel more, uh, again, I think right there. It's, it's for s- people to feel, um, it's, it's for people to, uh, feel, uh, better about their knowledge. Or they feel like , you know, they, they, they feel like, you know, maybe they feel superior or maybe they feel, um, you know, maybe they feel, um, you know, uh, maybe they feel superior. Maybe they feel, you know, um, like it needs to be corrected, you know. Uh, I need to be corrected on it or whatever. I need... I don't think necessarily that's the, the truth. I mean, you know, I mean, I just told Carol Ford a little bit back ago, it's like, "Hey, it's, you know, it's socks, not sochas," right? Just leave it at socks. I mean, it's, it's, it's not, it's not the end of the world, right? Uh, if you don't get it correct. You know? I mean, and, and I think that's the institution, they, they, they don't ca- I mean, they, they don't stress that though.

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I mean, they stre- they stress quite the opposite, you know. Like you, you know, you have to have it correct. You have to be precise, right? Uh, you know, you have to, um, you know, you have to meet the correct, um, you know, you have to, to meet it, uh, you have to meet that, um, expectation or whatever correctly. It can't be, uh, alt- you know, it can't be modif- or it can't be altered. It can't be modified. It can't be, um, it can't have error, right? Um, and some of that is too, I mean, a little bit, you know, I think too much, uh, pressure at times, you know. I mean, I think it's like, hey, you know, uh, you know, so it's, I, you know, I mean, it, it, it, it just is, is, you know, I mean, it, it , it's too serious sometimes. It's just too... I think, and that's what the, you know, the school taught. Like, you know, you have to take it serious, you know. You, you have to take this exam serious, right? There's just, there's no room to joke around. There's no room for a sense of humor. There's no room for, um, you know, uh, to, uh, you know, there's no room to, um, there, there's no room to ease the, the pressure of the exam or the quiz or the assignment or, you know, the homework, you know? Um, some of that's, you know, is, is too, a little bit too deep or, I mean, it's just too, um, at times I think it's, it's, it's a little too deep, you know. But I, like I said, I think, um, you know, I think that we're quick to correct, you know. And I mean, I got that feeling like, ooh, if you make an error, you just, ooh, it has to be corrected, right? You know. But you didn't really make an error. You met all the expectations before the error occurred, and it, it just gets wiped away. Your br- and your brain, like I said, your brain just zeroes in then on that one, right? Just zeroes in on, on that one error, that one mishap or that